This is an odd one, but I figured that if I am going to commit to doing this project for an entire year, some of these topics will need to be regular ol’ blog posts with convenient subject headings.
Really, you can replace boyfriend in this instance with friend, family member, flatmate etc. I am talking about whether the gods hold your guests accountable to the same rules and taboos that you are when they are in your home.
This month I have had a frequent male visitor who is an agnostic Christian. The first time he walked into my room, he took one look at my shrine and went ‘woah, that looks like some kind of shrine!’ (incidentally he is the first person to ever do this, so he wins a gold star). He then proceeded to take his phone and money out of his pockets and place them on the altar. I of course, immediately removed them much to his confusion; and then went on to explain that it WAS in fact a shrine, and that most pagans have one.
Later on that night, whilst in a state of miasma; he asked about what the things on the shrine represented and proceeded to pick up the wooden snake that represents Zeus Melichios to play with it. I had to take it back and then explain the concept of miasma.
He asked if the gods would be angry because he touched the shrine and I replied that I honestly do not think so. He does not honour my gods and so I do not think they they hold him to the same rules that they hold me to. However, any fault would lie with me and the space was still defiled; so I cleansed the space as soon as I could and said the appropriate prayers.
Do the gods hold your guests accountable for the same rules as you and your household? Would fault or blame lie with you for not instructing the guest on relevant things before their approach to an altar?